The strain of approaching a lady can be daunting. The anxiety can show in your actions and your words. The pressure may be too much to bear particularly if you can’t think of anything cool to say. Moreover, you get the feeling that you are going to be rejected anyway. You have no idea how to behave if she doesn’t react to your flirting and when you run out of cool things to say.
The expression for this powerlessness to approach ladies is approach anxiety. Healing this is tricky because you’re bound to feel this every time you approach girls. Even the veteran players still feel this around girls, believe it or not. You cannot eliminate approach anxiety completely, but you can discover how to cope even though you still feel jumpy when approaching ladies.
Listed here are some suggestions.
1. Open Body Language
There are lots of people around in a nightclub. When you get there, it’s likely that you do not know anybody so you sit around doing nothing. This action is good for a couple of minutes maximum, after which you should get up and join the chat somewhere else. People are expected to go around and socialize in a crowded night club. Social interaction is the name of the game.
Ladies are looking at you. Your actions are being observed. Drinking alone and not talking to anybody would give the impression that you’re creepy. They’d think you are all set on getting drunk alone and you do not want to mingle. Mingling with others begins with your body language. Be more easy to talk to even when everyone around is a stranger.
2. Eye Contact
It’s easy enough to make eye contact with a girl. The hard part is knowing what to do once you have made eye contact with a woman. A girl would either give you a passive look or a responsive look. A passive look is when you accidentally make eye contact with somebody. A passive look does not ask for a response. In the case of a reactive look, your eyes convey your desire to approach a girl. Unless a girl is too stoned to notice, she will reply with a look back or she will disregard you deliberately. You may use eye contact as a lure to catch the attention of the woman.
Eye contact will also give you an opportunity to measure the other person’s self confidence. If she looks away and acts awkward, it means that she’s shy. If you perceive that she’s more shy than you thought, you may feel less anxious about approaching her. This would tell you that ladies also feel flustered in this kind of situation.
3. Grin
At the proper intensity, eye contact can make a girl go red in the face. The emotion of being stared at with a meaningful stare can be overwhelming. Smiling just before you break the eye contact can soften the intensity of your look. A smile can inform her that you want to chat. By smiling, you are letting her know that you plan to approach her.
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