Ultimately there are no rules about choosing a band. It is up to either the man or the couple together to make a decision. Will he or won’t he. There are a variety of considerations. First, will he wear one? Once that decision is made in the affirmative then there is a whole world of choice about styles, widths, materials and the type of statement the ring makes, both for the man and the woman.
But once he has his ring on it is rare that he decides that he doesn’t like it. And even if he doesn’t, it is rare that the woman will let him take it off! A woman usually has narrower finer fingers, and so a narrower band suits her hand. A man on the other hand has wider chunkier fingers and so a wider band is more suited.
And as many men have never worn any form of jewellery before they have no idea what it will feel like to have something permanently on the finger. Is it heavy? Does it rub? Silly as it may seem to women this can be of concern to some men. (If this genuinely is of concern it is quite possible to find a cheap jewellery shop, buy the cheapest ring available and wear it for a while. See exactly what it feels like. And find out your size at the same time.)
Even though these rings are almost universally regarded as the special exception to this supposed “rule”, they are still, in the eyes of some men, effeminate. (One wonders what they find so distasteful about the feminine, but that’s another article.) They feel that “real men” don’t wear rings or jewellery at all. This is becoming less of an issue as the wearing of wedding bands by men becomes more common, but is still an issue with some men.
There are many different ring materials which also reflect the personality of the individual. Titanium or Platinum are both becoming much more popular. Whilst diamonds are not, of course, as popular with men as with women, they do make a clear statement which pleases some men who choose them. Diamond rings for any gender clearly say “I can afford it” or at least the big ones do. But it can be a brave man who chooses to wear a large diamond design or something even more elaborate.
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